For more information please check the choiceos site. You need to treat them as living things and fulfill their needs, but you can't because of the consequences. Otherwise how would you explain the fact that mental 'illness' has increased so dramatically over the last century or so? Feel enslaved to their emotions or powerless to change. Some people make it a personal mission to take on the world’s problems as their own. And, nobody wants that! Even someone lost in the wilderness with two broken legs will choose to crawl toward any sound of civilization and help. Without looking deeper at why our neurological and emotional systems do this, at first glance it seems that we as human beings become literally addicted to unhappiness. Especially millennials and young adults addicted to social media can develop jealousy and materialism because of the advertised lives of celebrities and influencers, who seem to be constantly on vacation wearing designer labels. The unfortunate reality is that most chronically unhappy people refuse to get help. A study by Eduardo Andrade and Joel Cohen, which evaluated why people enjoy horror movies, concluded that some viewers are happy to be unhappy. Sure at first my anger scared me and people commented on me being moody all the time, but now when people offer me a chance to be happy, or the possibility of being happy, I really don't think I'd be happy. Clinical psychology researchers Martha H. Pieper, Ph.D. and William J. Pieper, M.D., coauthors of the book “ Addicted to Unhappiness “, have found that people who have an acquired but unrecognized need to cause themselves unhappiness often come from stressful, abusive or highly dysfunctional childhoods. Mcgraw-Hill … some have seen inside me, my real me, they did not like it. Dear Martha, I bought and read your book. I do not believe this is completely true for all people. I usually blame my dissatisfaction on my job, or my wife's inability to meet my physical needs, or my financial situation, but now I think it's just me. I'm not sure I unreservedly buy into the central thesis, which is that when children aren't treated optimally they mistake the resulting negative feelings for happiness (because, to their minds, it's what their perfect parents intend for them to feel and must thus be an ideal state). I've been already & your "therapy" is fucking useless! . We are programmed since birth with paradoxical beliefs such as "it is too good to be true", "make your self, your family and your country proud but be humble since pride is one of the seven deadly sins and humility the greatest virtue" and much more. i tried to talk about it but my father is ignoring the problem, pretending that i never told him that. Thank you for this I'm living proof of this article. I don't want it. anyone would describe me as a good person, a good man, son, worker, friend. 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